DASI Derbyshire Anti Suicide Initiative

HOW TO HELP A LOVED ONE RECOVER FROM TRAUMA

• Keep communicating; both in words and (possibly more important) in deeds.
• Listen very carefully and try to understand how this is affecting the speaker.
• Try to understand the experience.
• Try to understand how this can change in time.
• Share in reviewing the past and the future – if invited to do so.
• Share in the making of new plans – if the speaker wishes.
• Assist in changing life values and priorities – if the speaker wishes.
• Respect privacy and the speakers need to spend reflective time alone.
• Do not allow your loved one to become isolated.
• Be patient. The effects of trauma could take a long time to unfold.
• Be patient. The effects of trauma could take a long time to come to terms with.
• It will take time to re-establish a comfortable lifestyle and relationship.
• Discourage excess use/abuse of alcohol and drugs.
• Set aside leisure time together.
• Relax together.
• Encourage the speaker to get plenty of rest, sleep and time to reflect.
• Make sure that you get plenty of rest.
• Ensure that you both eat properly.
• Encourage mild exercise together. Walking etc.
• Assist with daily tasks.
• Share responsibilities.
• Remember that others (family etc) may also require your support.
• Don’t hesitate to seek help if you need it.
• Don’t hesitate to seek help for other members of your family if they need it.

Do not forget that recovery will take time, but most people recover well with the continuing support of a loved one. Especially a loved one who cares and can show it through word and deed.